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Post by Peach on Jun 21, 2004 22:25:22 GMT -5
Yes, here`s this one big problem now, you may wait and look for that special someone, but as I said it`s very hard to find a person like that (and who`s still available!), so eventually you very well may end up all by youreself, without anyone.. (What probably will happen to me.. ;D ;D, `cause i`ll keep searching...) But on the other hand, nobody is perfect! And having at least someone there with you, is much better than to be single and lonely... But is there a woman who doesn`t want to get married and don`t want to have any children??  and  Having *someone* is not better than having *no one* if that someone isn't right for you. I don't agree AT ALL. If a person can't stand to be alone, therefore, is settling for "Mr./Ms. Not quite right," then there is a serious problem. (I'm not talking about finding perfection--I'm talking about compromising TOO much and whittling down your standards just to have "somebody.") I have a friend like that....she cannot stand being single or having a 'Dry Spell.' She has had a STRING of relationships with guys that were not right for her. I have been single for 3 years.... I haven't dated in that 3 years either, so truly single....not just "dating around." (Which isn't really single at all.) Until you can be truly content alone... then MOST OF THE TIME you'll be hookin' up for all the wrong reasons. (Just my opinion.) Also, yes there are women who don't want to get married OR have children.... I know some personally. I don't want to have any more children than the one I have. And I'm not so sure I want to get married until I have raised her.... I just think it's best that way. (Jury is still out, but I'm almost positive that I am doing the right thing.)  Peach |
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Post by keres on Jun 22, 2004 5:29:24 GMT -5
and Having *someone* is not better than having *no one* if that someone isn't right for you. I don't agree AT ALL. If a person can't stand to be alone, therefore, is settling for "Mr./Ms. Not quite right," then there is a serious problem. (I'm not talking about finding perfection--I'm talking about compromising TOO much and whittling down your standards just to have "somebody.") I have a friend like that....she cannot stand being single or having a 'Dry Spell.' She has had a STRING of relationships with guys that were not right for her. I have been single for 3 years.... I haven't dated in that 3 years either, so truly single....not just "dating around." (Which isn't really single at all.) Until you can be truly content alone... then MOST OF THE TIME you'll be hookin' up for all the wrong reasons. (Just my opinion.) Also, yes there are women who don't want to get married OR have children.... I know some personally. I don't want to have any more children than the one I have. And I'm not so sure I want to get married until I have raised her.... I just think it's best that way. (Jury is still out, but I'm almost positive that I am doing the right thing.) Peach
Well, it`s about time she finds someone who really cares about her! ;D ----- Yes, youre right of course in your post, I totally agree! It`s a pretty tough thing to discuss about, isn`t it? You can look to it from either side... I also don`t exactly want just ANYBODY,...I will continue looking for that right one...and i`ll be single until that happens...Right now I don`t have no girl, and im fine with it...I know it`s only a matter of time, when I`ll meet my special half. In my post what I was trying to say is, that there is absolutly NOBODY who is perfect, we ALL have some mistakes, some have more, some less, so there`s no such thing as "knight on a white horse" !( "I'm not talking about finding perfection--I'm talking about compromising TOO much and whittling down your standards just to have "somebody.") I only said, you have to love someone even with some faults, that`s not the same as "compromising TOO much and whittling down your standards".. Ok, about this finding perfection.. If you happen to meet someone who seems right, then...how much do you really know about him? Maybe he becomes some maniac or whatever when he gets drunk or something? There`s a lot of relationships start that way, guy seems to be the perfect thing, but after some time...you better run..You`ll never know, there are lot of crazy people in the world (and especially in US!  ) , so it`s pretty difficult thing...but if you have at least that someone, who isn`t maybe exactly the "Man of the Year" , but is nice and good in other ways...be with him! No risks! That was the idea I had and it sounds right at first, doesn`t it? BUT yes, why to be with someone who you just "like", if there`s someone out there better for you.. It would be like a waisting of time. Right? |
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Post by Peach on Jun 22, 2004 8:32:45 GMT -5
 Ahhhhhh....now you're making sense! There is no perfect man or woman, so if you are with someone who is good to you, stay with them. In other words, the grass isn't ALWAYS greener on the other side. (Looking for someone better, who probably doesn't exist.) It sounds like you have a good attitude about it! As far as my friend who keeps hookin' up with the wrong guys, she wouldn't know "Mr. Right" if he came up and bit her in the butt. That's the whole problem. In fact, she probably wouldn't want him. If she doesn't take the time to take care of the issues inside her that are leading her down this path, it will never get any better. Oh sure, she might luck out some day and get a decent guy, but so far that isn't happening. She just recently moved in AGAIN with her current beau. (This is number.... 4, I think? Move in-wise.) I keep telling her... to SOME men, moving in is a good substitute and "close enough" to getting married that they don't ever have to get married. So......when 5 years go by, I don't want to hear her whining about not being married. And that's my 2 cents. ;D Peach
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Post by keres on Jun 22, 2004 9:45:45 GMT -5
But what does she think of your opinion about it? What she says to you? ;D
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Post by Peach on Jun 22, 2004 9:57:04 GMT -5
But what does she think of your opinion about it? What she says to you? ;D She doesn't say much, but I'd be willing to guess... a lot of women with single friends think, if the single friend has a warning or advice that isn't as positive as they would like....that the single friend is either A. Jealous or B. Doesn't have a clue about relationships, or else they would be in one, too. She's always trying to get me to try out internet dating because she has, and I just won't go there. But see......it's easier to see how things are from the outside. I've seen her pattern, but none of that matters to her. She is driven to get married and have children....in almost a fearful way. Nothing good can come of that. When she wrote to tell me that her and current beau were moving in together, I said, "Hey, cool.....and why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!" (Because she said at the end of the email that "There are no wedding plans or anything, but I will keep you posted.") I'm thinking, "No wedding plans? Is that shocking?" Sorry if I sound non-supportive.... but I think we all know the type or have a friend like this.... the kind you just want to smack and give a gift certificate for 2 years worth of counseling to. Peach |
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Post by keres on Jun 22, 2004 10:13:32 GMT -5
I guess, it`s either they WILL get married (sooner or later) or they`ll brake up again. And then you say: "Well? What happend?? ;D "
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Post by Peach on Jun 22, 2004 10:19:57 GMT -5
I guess, it`s either they WILL get married (sooner or later) or they`ll brake up again. And then you say: "Well? What happend?? ;D " Yep..... while I'm also doing this. :banghead :banghead It's funny..... I have said more than once to her, "Lots of people know the right thing to SAY, and you always seem to believe them. Why don't you reserve judgment til you see ACTION." I mean, a lot of us have head knowledge, but it's quite a different thing LIVING it. Peach |
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Post by keres on Jun 22, 2004 10:30:37 GMT -5
Well, sorry... I don`t know what to say anymore..  Im not very experienced yet..Lol! But life will teach her by time.. Btw, how old is she? |
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Post by Peach on Jun 22, 2004 10:47:04 GMT -5
She is 31.... so old enough to know better. Peach |
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Post by keres on Jun 22, 2004 11:00:54 GMT -5
She is 31.... so old enough to know better. Peach ..ehh..I hope she`s not 5`2 and with curly blond hair.. ;D |
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Post by keres on Jun 22, 2004 15:27:16 GMT -5
Ah, I just realised she`s not quite 31 yet.. |
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Post by Peach on Jun 22, 2004 15:35:58 GMT -5
#1-- No, she's 5'9" with long, straight light brown hair.
#2--If you are referring to Ivory, I don't know her personal life and, even if I did, I would definitely not be discussing it on a public forum.....even keeping her nameless. *So* not cool. :nono
Peach
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Post by keres on Jun 22, 2004 16:03:03 GMT -5
#1-- No, she's 5'9" with long, straight light brown hair. #2--If you are referring to Ivory, I don't know her personal life and, even if I did, I would definitely not be discussing it on a public forum.....even keeping her nameless. *So* not cool. Peach Yes Peach, youre not like that of course...Sorry, but I just couldn`t resist asking that there. ;D  |
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Post by MissTara on Jun 22, 2004 18:49:24 GMT -5
..ehh..I hope she`s not 5`2 and with curly blond hair.. ;D Whats wrong with curly blonde hair? :potty mouth well 5 ft 8 is good for me ;D |
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Post by MissTara on Jun 22, 2004 18:52:57 GMT -5
btw,
stop! or your post will be deleted or the thread will be locked. thats the minimum..or membership could be terminated. All ya gotta do is no jokes about the person mainly responsible for the development of this board.
our opinions are our opinions. caint we all jus get along.
for real!
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