Too old?

[Cadeho]

"You are the oldest little boy I've ever known."

- My mother

I was told AGAIN today that I come across as and look like a 40-50 year old. One of the things cited this time was me listening to Motown. I replied that I like all kinds of music and was told it's more than music. I'm too uptight... but I've known that all along. This 39 year old woman says I'm letting life pass me by. I was even criticized for my glasses! This woman wanted to give me a makeover... and for what? Two other women, a 19 year old and 28 year old, first thought I was 30-40 when they first met me... doesn't help I'm balding, but I guess I just don't know what it's like to be young and never have. They say no woman around my age would be interested in me because I act so old... but I thought that would be a good thing... I don't know what's wrong with me... maybe I should just go through life saying I'm actually 50 and look good too! Where was I when Kennedy was shot? In a coma....
What is so bad about how I am that people have wanted to change me?

[selfishreasons]

if it makes you feel any better, I think you look like your about 35. lol. for though, I don't know what those people are seeing.

[tdallasw]

Why is it a crime to act like a mature adult instead of a young thug? Cadeho - let your light shine from within. If you allow people to see the goodness in your heart, they will see how young you are. Celebrate life... enjoy being young... but don't let people try to change you. Be proud of who you are and the music and other pleasures you truly enjoy in life. If you try to please everyone but yourself, you will be miserable. If there are greater things you want to achieve, do it for YOU! Not to try to fit into someone else's idea of who you should be.
We love you for who you are... and believe me... the right woman will come along and think you are the greatest invention since toilet paper. Be yourself... but be your BEST self. And... be proud!!

[Ivory Fair]

It's called being a "old soul." It happens to the best of us.

[Peach]

Tdallas, that was beautiful!! And I needed that, *too*, today!

Ivory, I'm an old soul!! I've always said I needed an older man because I'm a homebody. Don't get me wrong.... I do leave my little cocoon from time to time, but I'm happiest in my little home doing home-y things.

Cadeho, there are women who appreciate mature men! Trust me!!! Don't let anyone change you if you are content with who you are!!

Peach

[Ivory Fair]

Well, I'd certainly get an older man if you can find a good one! They have my endorsement. :clap:

[Cadeho]

Thanks everyone. I'm not going to let anyone change me (my mother tried when I was like 15.. didn't go well... wanted me to dress like Stephan Urkell... she gave up). I just don't understand these people...

[sukkafu]

cadeho-it's hard to argue with your folks if you still live with them. if you don't want to hear the garbage, maybe find an apt
for yourself or a roommate or two. nothing wrong with you liking old music or old movies or old anything.

[AnnaKonda]

Hey cadeho,

I think women who don't like a potential boyfriend to be "old" are only looking for a clown they can tease and watch dancing to their tunes. I don't think such girls are interested in a serious relationship or even friendship: both require maturity. Nowadays it seems to be in to remain a teenager until you enter the nursing home. That is sad! Because people deny themselves the rewards for being old. (Yes there are such rewards). Next time someone criticizes you for listening to old music, ask them what they think of people who like classical music -- they're not ancient because of that. They just have a different taste. That's all. And they do enjoy life to the fullest by immersing themselves into something they love.

Don't let anyone make you over. You may end up looking like poor Michael Jackson. And that's not a joke; I do believe he is the classic example of a person doing anything to please folks that otherwise would not have done so (at least in his mind). He even sacrificed his God given features -- which were pleasant to look at -- for the sake of appearing white.


AnnaKonda