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Post by QueTip on Mar 8, 2005 21:23:49 GMT -5
One area in the lives of most people is in the area of relationships. Some are looking for the one to just satisfy their needs sexual, financial, or just someone to hang out with. Once you get passed the sex, how do you know that it's love. Does that person love you for you? Do you love the person more than you love youreself........................ everbody wants that love that's real .....this is critical to most relationships. Some have been hurt so bad they cannot love. A lot of people put sex and love together. But real love always seeks the highest good of the other person. Real love forgives. Real loves gives and not just takes......How do you really know?  ?? I heard a preacher say...."Love is like jumping out in the dark....you don't know where your going to land" "Q" |
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Post by brunneng on Mar 9, 2005 16:32:04 GMT -5
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Post by tabby on Mar 9, 2005 21:19:15 GMT -5
I don't know I think the part of love in a relationship is simply overrated. At least that kind of romantic love we all experience when we "fall" in love. That kind of love should be over sooner or later -- at the latest, though, when we "get up" again. In my opinion, respect for the other person is more important than love per se. Love is an emotion, and therefore, it is prone to fluctuations; respect is more solid than an emotion, in my opinion -- and, for me, it is a prerequisite for loving a person. I could not love a person I have no respect for. Further, I believe that love in a good relationship adjusts to the phase the relationship is in. At first, it is all about the heart jumping in one's chest. Then it is about caring for the other's well-being, for his or her place in society, in the end it's more of a being attached to that person than anything else. A fulfilling relationship, in my opinion, tries to keep all these factors alive for its duration. It's all about giving and taking and not being afraid/ashamed to ask him/her for something. Only giving is as wrong as is only taking. In short, a loving relationship depends on a couple's ability to adjust to the different phases of its life together. "... 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30 years of love" can't be the same kind of love for all those years  On the other hand, real love doesn't has to last forever either. Maybe a truly great and deeply felt love will be over after it has entered a certain phase. Just because it didn't last for a lifetime doesn't mean, it wasn't true. Love as people doesn't fit one mold only. |
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Post by Elbridge on Mar 9, 2005 23:49:57 GMT -5
When you offer to take out the trash.
Ed
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Post by TemptsFanforLife on Mar 10, 2005 1:42:50 GMT -5
If you are on the toilet and your mate walks in and does whatever it is they came into the bathroom to do without saying a word about the smell. Well that person has to really be in love with you.
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Post by MissTara on Mar 10, 2005 9:07:03 GMT -5
If you are on the toilet and your mate walks in and does whatever it is they came into the bathroom to do without saying a word about the smell. Well that person has to really be in love with you.  in that case, I've never been in love |
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Post by MissTara on Mar 10, 2005 9:08:10 GMT -5
When you offer to take out the trash. Ed :laughing I like how you put " offer" in there. Boy thats the truth |
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Post by OtisAnn on Mar 10, 2005 16:31:45 GMT -5
Real love is when you can be yourself with a person and you don't have to pertend your something that your not' And that person is there for you through the good and the bad times. And if that person have a dollar you have hife of it. And that person will put you first other words that person will put your feeling and needs first. That person want do nothing to hurt you and they will respect you around friends and family that way they know to have respect for you. that person will respect your feeling. See no matter how much a person tells you they love you if they don't show it talk is nothing. And if that person not there when you need them the most and they not there for you when they can be, thats no love. Little things a person do for you can mean so much. Like been a child you can give them what ever their little heart want but if your not there for that child to hold them whan they cry or tell them a bed time story which is showing love them big thing is not so meaningful. Every man, woman, boy, or girl needs love and needs somebody to hold them. Now most men want tell you this but they love for you to hold them they love the same thing a woman love and they hurt the same way we hurt. For as been strong their not thats a show men put on because thats brand'ed in them as little boys thats why men don't show their true feeling because to other men he is said to be soft.That why men don't show much love to his woman he must show that he's hard and don't care even if it hurt him and you. A man don't want to look weak and want respect from his friends. You see he's the man. And if he show you to much respect it's said his woman got him raped around her finger. But I will tell men this. The same man who telling you this flow him home and see how unhappy his woman is and you know what she soon is going to leave him. He don't have nothing going for his self like you have. His stuff is rockey and he's not happy with his self. So if you have a person who love you treat them right show them the same love they showing you. They not crazy because they nice to you they just love you thats all. But if you mistreat and abused them you want have them much longer.  |
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Post by OtisAnn on Mar 10, 2005 16:36:43 GMT -5
Real love is when you can be yourself with a person and you don't have to pertend your something that your not' And that person is there for you through the good and the bad times. And if that person have a dollar you have hife of it. And that person will put you first other words that person will put your feeling and needs first. That person want do nothing to hurt you and they will respect you around friends and family that way they know to have respect for you. that person will respect your felling. See no matter how much a person tells you they love you is they don't show it talk is nothing. And if that person not there when you need them the most and they not there for you when they can be, thats no love. Little things a person do for you can mean so much. Like been a child you can give them what ever their little heart want but if your not there for that child to hold them whan they cry or tell them a bed time story which is showing love them big thing is not so meaningful. Every man, woman, boy, or girl needs love and needs somebody to hold them. Now most men want tell you this but they love for you to hold them they love the same thing a woman love and they hurt the same way we hurt. For as been strong their not thats a show men put on because thats brand'ed in them as little boys thats why men don't show their true feeling because to other men he is said to be soft.That why men don't show much love to his woman he must show that he's hard and don't care even if it hurt him and you. A man don't want to look weak and want respect from his friends. You see he's the man. And if he show you to much respect it's said his woman got him raped around her finger. But I will tell men this. The same man who telling you this flow him home and see how unhappy his woman is and you know what she soon is going to leave him. He don't have nothing going for his self like you have. His stuff is rockey and he's not happy with his self. So if you have a person who love you treat them right show them the same love they showing you. They not crazy because they nice to you they just love you thats all. But if you mistreat and abused them you want have them much longer. |
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Post by tabby on Mar 10, 2005 16:45:54 GMT -5
When you offer to take out the trash. Ed I agree, if that is still true after --let's say -- the third year of a relationship |
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Post by tabby on Mar 10, 2005 16:48:27 GMT -5
OtisAnn, I think that is a good assessment. But do you think you can find all these good qualities in one person |
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Post by MissTara on Mar 10, 2005 16:54:25 GMT -5
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Post by tabby on Mar 10, 2005 17:12:15 GMT -5
Yes ... I wish I could find them all in my own person. Of some I possess only traces, of others I have enough to spare  I think what OtisAnn says underpins my own idea that one only knows whether he/she deals with true love after having spent enough time together. One has to encounter a variety of situations in which the other person has the opportunity to show/witness love at work ... |
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Post by OtisAnn on Mar 11, 2005 0:19:42 GMT -5
Yes AnnaKonda you can find all these qualities in one person. But you don't go looking for love you let it find you. and one thing most of us do wrong we show a person love before they show us anything. A relationship should be 50th 50th not one person doing all the loving.And another thing I'm telling women in my book is to hold back on sex care more for your body then that. Just because a man ask you for sex that dont mean that he care for you that man is trying you he's trying to see how easy you is. And nine time out of ten when you see him you like him you like him you love him you love him you let him you let him you lose him. so first we most love our self for others to love us.And lets dress and speak and act like ladies then just maybe our men will care more for us. |
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Post by MissTara on Mar 11, 2005 8:41:37 GMT -5
Yes ... I wish I could find them all in my own person. Of some I possess only traces, of others I have enough to spare I think what OtisAnn says underpins my own idea that one only knows whether he/she deals with true love after having spent enough time together. One has to encounter a variety of situations in which the other person has the opportunity to show/witness love at work ... Yes well, thats not what I meant. (((Grams))) |
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