Post by Ivory Fair on Sept 22, 2004 1:42:03 GMT -5
I started out writing this as a private message to someone and decided half way through it might be good for EVERYONE to read, so here it is.......
Perhaps it will help if I explained where I was coming from.
For quite some time, I have been upset with several people on the board. There were some things that happened that were very hurtful to me. I felt it was unfair to take my personal feelings out on other posters. I've always believed that it was NOT just MY board and that it belonged to everyone who contributed to it. People didn't have to agree with me and I didn't have to agree with them, as long as we were civil to one another, that was always my philosophy. Subsequently, despite my negative feelings toward some people, I did not ban anyone (I'm talking about things that happened months ago) like many other board moderators would have done.
In the short term, it had the effect I wanted. Everyone else was happy and no one seemed to notice. But it was taking its toll on ME. I lost all interest in maintaining the board and just became a general bitch to everyone. I had no desire to contribute to the board because I felt like no one was appreciating what I was doing.
On numerous occasions, I was one click away from deleting the entire board but didn't do it because I felt that would be unfair to everyone else.
But what resulted was that I let all of that negativity build up in me until I exploded and what resulted was the events of the past few days.
Now I'm not taking total blame for this, I was called a liar and some very hurtful things were said to me by people I considered friends. Finally, I just said "screw it" and decided to "cast out" some of the offending members while some of them chose to leave on their own.
Looking back, I'm not sure if that was the best course of action (letting it fester) but I don't know of anything else I could have done, because if I'd gotten rid of those who had upset me way back when, everyone would have gotten mad at me for that.
It was a no win situation.
However, what I know now is that a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and I'm no longer feeling spite toward the board and most of the people here. I feel like it's a clean slate. If half of the board wants to leave, it's probably the best thing for all of us.
I'm going to bed now and you're gonna see a whole 'new Ivory in the morning.
If you would like to discuss this matter with me, you know how to reach me.
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Perhaps it will help if I explained where I was coming from.
For quite some time, I have been upset with several people on the board. There were some things that happened that were very hurtful to me. I felt it was unfair to take my personal feelings out on other posters. I've always believed that it was NOT just MY board and that it belonged to everyone who contributed to it. People didn't have to agree with me and I didn't have to agree with them, as long as we were civil to one another, that was always my philosophy. Subsequently, despite my negative feelings toward some people, I did not ban anyone (I'm talking about things that happened months ago) like many other board moderators would have done.
In the short term, it had the effect I wanted. Everyone else was happy and no one seemed to notice. But it was taking its toll on ME. I lost all interest in maintaining the board and just became a general bitch to everyone. I had no desire to contribute to the board because I felt like no one was appreciating what I was doing.
On numerous occasions, I was one click away from deleting the entire board but didn't do it because I felt that would be unfair to everyone else.
But what resulted was that I let all of that negativity build up in me until I exploded and what resulted was the events of the past few days.
Now I'm not taking total blame for this, I was called a liar and some very hurtful things were said to me by people I considered friends. Finally, I just said "screw it" and decided to "cast out" some of the offending members while some of them chose to leave on their own.
Looking back, I'm not sure if that was the best course of action (letting it fester) but I don't know of anything else I could have done, because if I'd gotten rid of those who had upset me way back when, everyone would have gotten mad at me for that.
It was a no win situation.
However, what I know now is that a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and I'm no longer feeling spite toward the board and most of the people here. I feel like it's a clean slate. If half of the board wants to leave, it's probably the best thing for all of us.
I'm going to bed now and you're gonna see a whole 'new Ivory in the morning.
If you would like to discuss this matter with me, you know how to reach me.
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