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Post by OtisAnn on Jul 25, 2005 10:31:45 GMT -5
Thank you davidruffinlover,Im trying to tell women that they dont' have to be in a relationship to be happy,and not to feel it's something they doing wrong because the relationship don't work out. And please if a person is mistreating them get out of the relationship. Here's why a week ago my cousin was shot in the chest by her boyfriend and died. She leave behind a little ten year old girl. Let this not happen again.  |
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Post by Peach on Jul 25, 2005 10:51:23 GMT -5
 Here, here, Otis Ann. I'm proof of that. It's the feeling of desperation that gets women in trouble... that causes them to "carve away" what they really want to settle for someone who is "close enough." I have way too many friends that are afraid of being alone....afraid of being "too old" to get married.... and, in their eagerness and desperation, they SETTLE. And these are the same ones that are always trying to set me up, thinking I'm the same way. There are times when I think, "Oh my gosh, I don't want to be 40 and alone.... or 50 and alone." But then I think, "What if I am? Does that matter? Does that mean I'm doomed to unhappiness?" If one feels they are incomplete without a man, then they *can't* be happy alone...it's a mindset. I could have easily married my last boyfriend...he WANTED to marry me... but it would have been the worst mistake I ever could make. And I'm a single mom....and I struggle every month. I think a lot of single moms make unwise choices because they A. think they can't make it alone B. think their kids MUST have a daddy and C. have low self esteem. Well, it's  I'm going off on a tangent here. ;-D So ladies..... be strong. And don't settle!!!! Hope you don't mind me posting this.... just in case it was a personal post just to davidruffinlover. As you can tell, I feel pretty strongly about this.  Peach
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Post by davidruffinlover on Jul 25, 2005 13:58:36 GMT -5
Your welcome OtisAnn. =D I'm sorry about your cousin, that's horrible =(
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Post by lightdion on Jul 26, 2005 3:10:59 GMT -5
Yeah, sorry Otis Ann to hear that I pray that your family has peace in the time of need.
I've seen plenty of my friends getting boyfriends just so that won't be "Single and Alone". I now have two close friends who are getting engaged to people who I know they just can't spend the rest of thier lives with that person and they are also too young....... All I can do is try to convince them not to and shake my head.
I used to be the same way. I thought something was wrong with me because I couldn't get and keep a boyfriend. I used to think that I will be alone and an old lady living with 90 cats!!!!
But then I realized that I don't need a man to "Keep on Truckin". I enjoy who I am and when God think the time is right, he'll send me my night in shining armor. In that time, I relaz and enjoy being just me!!!
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Post by davidruffinlover on Jul 26, 2005 3:16:02 GMT -5
Nice "Keep on truckin'" reference =) I was afraid of being alone too, but I don't have to worry bout that now cause when I turn 18....I have a wonderful husband awaiting me =) Ok, so maybe we'll have to have a long engagement or something but ya. Lol. =) OtisAnn, my prayers & best wishes go out to you & your family =) You'll find a way to "Keep on Truckin'". =D
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Post by Tasha on Jul 5, 2006 2:37:12 GMT -5
Thank you davidruffinlover,Im trying to tell women that they dont' have to be in a relationship to be happy,and not to feel it's something they doing wrong because the relationship don't work out. And please if a person is mistreating them get out of the relationship. Here's why a week ago my cousin was shot in the chest by her boyfriend and died. She leave behind a little ten year old girl. Let this not happen again.  may she rest in peace. and hopefully people will learn from this and learn to get out of an abusive relationship as soon as possible.[/size] |
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